Googling for Love
August 27, 2008
Google: (GOO.gul) v. To use an Internet search engine such as Google.com to look for information related to a new or potential girlfriend or boyfriend.
Have you Googled yourself yet? Can anyone resist? If you haven’t had the pleasure, here’s how:
Go to Google.com, type your name in quotation marks, and see what comes up.
A lot depends on how common your name is (like John Smith). I tend to get references to nobility (that’s the Lord part), and the genealogy citations are many. But sure enough, there’s my house in Maine (I rent it during the summer from an Internet ad) and stained glass courses that my husband Drew and I have taught. When I add my middle initial B, then the references are pure cyber romance. Yea!
Drew’s name gets his scientific publications. If I had googled him when we were courting, I would not have made the embarrassing gaff of bragging about my publications (2). He had me beat hands down. But also, that Google search would have added to his credibility, because he is cited over and over as a scientist and connected with the Army Corps of Engineers. I would have been reassured.
Does Internet Dating Work?
August 22, 2008
What’s the Number One Question that Everyone Asks About CyberDating?
Everyone — and that included YOU! — wants to know: “Does Internet Dating Work?”
Well, I KNOW it works, and in the best possible way, because I met my husband Drew on Match.com in May 1998. And I know others who have met their True Love that way, too. (I’m collecting stories of Internet True Romance, if you know of a couple that met that way — email me at Kathryn@Find-A-Sweetheart.com and tell me all about it!)
But what about for you? Will it work for YOU???
No one wants to get their hopes up and then be disappointed, do they? If this is “not going to work,” then why try?
Sounds like a good reason not to do anything, doesn’t it? Because even though CyberDating most definitely worked for me, I can’t guarantee that it will “work” for you. Too many variables, the biggest of which is you — your own fears and how far you are willing to go.
Let’s look at this question from a more logical place.
What have you been doing, other than posting on an Internet Dating site, about finding a mate? And how is that working for you?
Little Known Dating Tips, Secrets, and Dating Mistakes
August 18, 2008
I hear it over and over-"It was going so great, and then she disappeared on me? why? What happened-we were having such a great time together. I’m tired of this happening-I want to date sexy women, but I want them to stick around. Do you have any dating tips for me?"
Yes, I do. Every time I talk to a guy who tells me this, I discover he’s making the exact same mistakes most guys do, dating mistakes that kill his chances of successfully dating sexy women. So, I give him some dating tips to skyrocket his success with sexy women. Here are the most common ones:
Dating tip #1: Don’t date. Yes, that’s right-don’t date. Think about a traditional "date"-it’s full of pressure, awkwardness, evaluation and it just plain sucks. What do you do on a "traditional date?" Dinner, movie, kiss goodnight, she doesn’t return your calls. Or you have drinks, and try to "make your move," and we all know where that ends up. Much better (and cheaper) to meet for coffee-it’s fun and relaxed with none of the normal dating expectations.
How a Blind Date Can Increase Your Psychic Abilities
August 13, 2008
So how can a blind date increase your psychic abilities? It’s probably not what you’re thinking. We’re not talking about having a few drinks with someone you’ve never met before. We’re talking about developing your psychic abilities by deliberating shutting down one or more of your five senses.
Because we are such physical creatures, we have a tendency to use our five senses in everything we do. That’s not a bad idea for driving, walking, or working on the computer, but if you want to increase your psychic or spirit abilities, using your five senses less will help.
That’s where the blind date comes in. A blind date is where you blindfold yourself and have a buddy walk you around on a “date.” Your buddy’s job is to make sure that you’re safe and you don’t walk into anything or fall in a ditch. Your buddy is your guide and will lead you around, keeping you safe and upright.
Your part of this date is to extend your psychic abilities outward as your buddy walks you around. Sense what is around you. Do you sense a large object ahead or just open space? Sense what is behind and above you as well, since your psychic abilities will allow you to see in 360 degrees.
How to Impress a Woman
August 8, 2008
The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: don’t screw this up. Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to “impress” the woman that he’s talking to:
1) He tries to only say “cool” things, or things that will “impress” the woman.
2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation… sometimes coming across as “formal”.
3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.
4) If he says something that the woman doesn’t like, he “back-pedals” and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.
5) He doesn’t say anything “risky”, doesn’t tease the woman, and doesn’t do anything to upset her.
Surprisingly enough, those are big turn-offs to women. There are 5 things that you need to remember to impress a female on a first date. Remember to shower, put on fresh deodorant and cologne before going on a date. One of the biggest turn-offs for a woman is when their date smells bad!
Online Dating for Beginners
August 4, 2008
There are many online dating sites, all of them require you to be at least 18 years of age. The two that I really liked, were Match.com and Yahoo Personals. Match.com is probably the largest online dating site ever, it allows you to create a profile, and search for other profiles for free. You can also send winks (basically a notification that you like someone’s profile) to other people for free. In order to actually send emails to other users, you need to be subscribed, which costs a small monthly fee (this can range from $9.99 to $29.99 depending on the site).
When you make your profile, make sure your being honest, because if you meet in person with someone, and they find out some of your information was duped, the sight won’t be a pretty one. A lot of the dating sites have an option to add a picture of you. If your planning on doing this, have a good quality camera (preferably a digital camera unless you have a scanner). Ask a friend or family member to take a few shots of you in a well lit room. Make sure the background is ok, and wear something that you usually wear (no tuxedos or anything). A picture is worth a thousand words, so don’t blow it! Also, other things that you probably shouldn’t do are make a kiss with your lips, be topless, etc. Also, make sure to smile, you don’t want them staring at Hannibal Lecter!
Breaking Up
July 30, 2008
The first thing you should do is talk about what happened, to your closest friend or family member. Just let it all out. The more you talk about what happened, the better you’ll feel about it later on. You still have someone that cares about you, your friend or family member.
The next thing to do is to focus on other aspects of life. If you’re in school, focus hard on your studies, and challenge yourself to the limit. Have a job’ Try really hard at your job, put in the overtime. The key thing to do is to achieve something to be proud of. Once you’ve done this, you will end up feeling better about yourself. Maybe you’ve even forgot about the breakup, or the memory is just a very vivid one. And if you’re still feeling like crap, you might want to try something different.
Self-Esteem
July 27, 2008
It begins with you, and your attitude. There are a lot of misconceptions about what type of guys women date. Most guys start thinking, oh they only date the rich guys with thick wallets, or those supermodel guys who look super hot. First off, if you’re looking to find a date, you need to stop comparing yourself to other guys. This show isn’t about those guys with Porsches and Ferrari’s, it’s about you.
Believing that you can get a date will help you become more confident. If everyday, you think of yourself as a loser, then honestly, you will remain a loser. Actions have to come from you; the will to succeed and strive has to come from your desire. Sitting around and feeling like crap won’t help to your cause, trust me.
Now that we have focusing on yourself, and confidence taken care of, most guys start to be very self-conscious about their looks. Let’s face it, not everyone looks like Brad Pitt, and there’s nothing you can do about that it’s all genetics. What you can do, is start changing your habits and push them into tune. Brush your teeth regularly, shower everyday, buy some fancy deodorant (Axe, Old Spice), comb your hair (gel, hairspray), and most of all wear a comfortable yet good-looking outfit depending on where you go everyday. If your still in school or college, wear something casual, if you’re low on cash, visit some of the cheaper stores maybe in an outlet mall and look for coupons. There’s no excuse for not keeping yourself in shape either!
How to Get a Date
July 21, 2008
Step #1- The first impression. Before you approach a girl or women, you need to know a few obvious formalities. Be clean - be sure you are wearing attractive cologne, clean clothes, and fresh breath. Woman notice the smallest details, so bad breath or B.O. will be one of the first impressions of you and you don’t want that. Depending on what kind of girl you want to go after, you should always wear clean, fitting clothes; stains or overlarge clothes are a indication of what kind of lifestyle you live and you want to give her the best impression possible. Right before you approach her, you should put your confident but not cocky and witty but not corny cap on because that is the next thing that girls will be attracted to after your looks.
Step #2-The Actual Date. Be a gentleman, open the door for her, take her coat and be considerate. This will be an indication to her that you care about her and that you know how to treat a woman. Take her out somewhere where both of you enjoy going. Having the same common interests is important in a relationship because you will be able to hold a conversation on a topic you and her agree on. This way you will avoid fights.
No More Desperation Dating
July 17, 2008
When you think about what you find attractive in a person, what comes to mind? Tall, dark and handsome? Blonde and curvaceous?
How about happy and fulfilled with an exciting life?
I don’t know about you, but I would pick the happy, exciting life every time. While physical chemistry is important, I know quite a number of people who would not win a beauty pageant, but are so filled with life and energy that they draw the attention of everyone when they enter a room. They may not be the easiest on the eye, but they certainly are the ones I want to talk to and spend time with.
***Looking Ahead***
As we get ready for the search for our future partners, an easy aspect to overlook is our attitude towards our own lives. Each time I have found myself single, adjusting myself to the possible reality that I might be that way the rest of my life has seemed imperative. A part of that adjustment has always included building a happy and interesting life for myself.
