Commitment
March 12, 2010
Being marriage means being fully committed to your husband as to the Lord. Look at Ephesians 5:22 it says Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body of which he is Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water though the word, and present her to himself as a radiant church without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church-for we are members of his body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother an be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery-but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Deciding On Spousal Support
February 23, 2010
No matter which side you are on, spousal support is something that will need to be taken care of during a divorce. Something must be decided about spousal support, yet, where are you to begin? What are you going to do to resolve this issue of spousal support? Are you afraid to ask for what you already know you deserve, support? Or, are you on the other side, wondering what is going to be required of you as far as spousal support goes?
What is spousal support? Who is entitled to spousal support? Spousal support is support given in the form of money or possessions that helps to support a spouse after a divorce. Spousal support is often necessary when families who were living on one income split. The income earner would need to still support his or her spouse after they had split. While it may seem harsh to require spouses to have to support the other after they are separated, in many cases this is necessary.
Divorce, The Hardest Thing You Have To Do
February 5, 2010
Knowing What To Do In Divorce
Knowing what to do when you are faced with a divorce is often hard to figure out. But, you can and you will get through it. First, you need a qualified divorce attorney. A divorce is a messy thing and you will want someone knowledgeable to help you figure it out. Then, you need to decide on some very important situations. It can not be stressed enough the importance of having a level head and not pursuing those angry feelings. Things like money and property will have to be divided within the divorce. But, your children will also need to know that you and your partner have the best intentions for them as well even though you are facing this divorce.
The statistics are high in this country for divorce. If you are one of those individuals searching for answers on how to make it through your divorce, you can find answers and divorce attorneys through many resources. Some of them are: your local yellow pages, online, through a person whom you may know who has gone through a divorce.
Child Support: 5 Key Things Every Parent Should Know
January 19, 2010
There is no magic solution to getting issues surrounding child support resolved. Most parents know that when dealing with the bureaucracy tied to the child support system persistence, persistence, persistence is the key that opens the door. In fact, it is the only thing that will open any door when it comes to getting a resolution to a problem. You cannot count on pencil pushers, or all too patient white collar "Friend of the Court" workers to help. They are overworked, underpaid, wrapped in a sea of paperwork, antiquated computer programs, and red tape that barely allows them to move from point "A" to point "B". So what’s a parent to do?
1. If your relationship even remotely appears to be on the rocks and children are involved start collecting information on your partner. This is advice for both men and women. Don’t fool yourself gentlemen; you too can become a custodial parent seeking child support from your partner. It may not be the norm, but it is a reality. Don’t sneak around, and don’t feel as though you are going behind someone’s back. You have to do what is in the best interest of your children and yourself. Begin collecting bank account numbers, list of licenses, locations of stock/bond papers, money markets and past work/address history. Gather as much as you can.
Steps Toward Divorce
January 1, 2010
When you’re faced with the possibility of divorce it’s important that you make sure you and your children (if you have any) are taken care of. Before you even visit the attorney you’ll want to assess your financial situation. Income, expenses, child support, credit, they all play a part in your decision.
The very first thing to consider is your income. How much is your income? What are your expected monthly expenses? In this figure you must include your basic necessities. If you have children you’ll need to include the figure for childcare. Now you have the two most important numbers in this equation. Hold onto these for a few minutes. You’ll need this in a moment.
The issue of child support has to be included before we make the rest of our calculations. Many want to include a figure for expected child support into their income. This decision could produce an unwanted result. First, you do not know exactly how much a court is going to award you. Second, you may think you know your spouse but you really don’t. You think they’re going to pay child support faithfully but the chances still exists that they will not. So, to protect yourself and your children, I’m asking that you leave this figure out of the income total.
Should I Get Divorced? Or Not?
December 14, 2009
No one besides you can determine whether or not a divorce is right for you! But, there are some general questions which pretty much apply to everybody. Thinking about the following issues may help you answer this question for yourself!
What specifically is making you think of divorce?
Physical Abuse
If your spouse is violent to you and/or your kids, this is a safety issue. No matter what you may have done, NOONE deserves to be hurt! Your spouse may be trying to justify his or her actions by blaming all of your marital problems on you. Please remember that a marriage requires effort by both persons to make it work.
Ask yourself the following questions:
a. Has your spouse tried to isolate you from your friends and family?
b. Have you had to call the police to stop violence?
c. Have you ever had to go to the hospital as a result of being hurt by your spouse?
d. Does your spouse apologize after hurting you and promise "never to do it again?"
e. Do you try to do everything "right" to keep your spouse from losing his or her temper?
Surviving Life After Divorce
November 26, 2009
After divorce, the most important thing you can do is to move forward sensibly. Here are ten steps to help you on your way back to a fulfilling life.
1. Think single. As obvious as it may seem, you’re no longer one half of a couple and that can take some getting used to. After all, life as a single woman is very different to the life you’ve been leading for a major part of your life. Take time to understand the changes that are happening in your life and don’t expect it to be easy.
2. Remind yourself that it’s ok to be single. In a society where single women are often looked down at by their married peers, they can easily find themselves believing that they’re failures; that “real” women are involved in loving, lasting relationships. That simply isn’t true. More and more women are choosing to remain single, or to break out of unfulfilling relationships, something which shows strength rather than weakness. Surviving means believing in yourself and your capabilities as a single woman.
How Can Collaborative Law Be Beneficial In Your Texas Divorce?
November 10, 2009
Collaborative law is based on the realization that the commitment by the parties in a family is that it is in their best interest to avoid going to trial.
This process relies on open and honest communication and cooperation between the parties and their lawyers to achieve a fair result. This is a revolutionary approach to law, and legal professionals from all over the country are flocking to Dallas, Houston, and Austin which are the cities leading the way in developing this new approach to solving family law problems.
When a husband and a wife agree to handle their divorce through collaborative law, they agree to identify the goals, values, and interests of each parties. Both the husband and the wife maintain control over their decisions and how their family will make this life transition.
The collaborative law process takes dispute resolution to whole new level. Texas is at the national forefront of this exciting new way to solve family law problems. Our normal legal system uses an adversarial process to settle disputes. Collaborative law attorneys abandon this process, and instead use “team approach”.
What does this mean for a couple in the process of a divorce?
Divorce
October 23, 2009
The most recent statistics show that about 50% of all marriages end in divorce. It is not very encouraging to enter into any kind of relationship knowing that it only has a 50/50 chance of being successful. Failure at anything is never pleasant, but there is one good thing about divorce. You are now free to try again and hopefully this time you will not make the same mistake.
Now I want you to think about divorce and the stock market. Do you own any stock or mutual funds that are selling for less than you paid for them? If you have owned any equities during this past three years I will be willing to bet you have some losers in your portfolio. Don’t you think it is time to think about a divorce, a divorce from a losing situation?
Suppose you sold everything today and put it all in a money market account paying 1%? I know what you think about 1%. Suppose you had dumped those losers 2 years ago and been in cash all this time? Would you be money ahead at 1%? I’ll bet you would.
Women And Divorce: How Women Should Protect Themselves Financially Regarding Divorce
October 6, 2009
Women who believe a divorce is a possibility or who think that their husband will be asking about getting a divorce at some point should put their emotions aside and plan “just in case” their intuition is correct that a divorce may be coming in the near future. If women who believe that the “divorce discussion” may be lurking, they should make it a point to look for solid signs that their husband will indeed ask for a divorce…then they should plan accordingly.
Women who think that they are signs that her husband may ask for a divorce but haven’t thought about it deeply or who think that a divorce would better suit them rather than their husbands, should view the situation realistically and as stoically as possible. This will ensure that plan they take is calculated, logical and will benefit them based on what they want the end result to yield.
Often times women refuse to think that a divorce could happen to them and one day their husband comes home and says “There’s something I have been meaning to talk to you about…” or “I think we should get a divorce.” or something similar. If the situation has reached this point, its too late for women to start planning for their financial future after divorce.
