Flowers in Her Hair
September 3, 2010
Before George W Bush became a President, John Quincy Adams was the first son of a President to become a President himself. But while John Quincy Adams lost that first, for him and his family there are still other firsts.
One of his own firsts was that he created the very first flower garden in the grounds of the White House, generating a generation of Presidents involved in ongoing beautification of the White House grounds.
But it was Mary Catherine Hellen who brought into the Adams’ Family a most interesting first.
For sometime she had flirted light-heartedly with the President’s two older sons, never quite sure which one to choose. She did lean slightly to George Washington, the eldest of the boys. After all, there was always a certain amount of prestige, and often a definite financial reward in marrying the first born. But in her heart of hearts, she had to admit George Washington was not a lot of fun to be around. Only in his early twenties, up to his eyeballs in hock, he also seemed to spend a lot of time around the cocktail cabinet ? and not only at the happy hour.
Wedding Rings - How to Choose a Perfect Ring
September 1, 2010
Selecting a wedding ring isn’t as easy as it looks. You are going to wear your ring for the rest of your life, so it should be something you won’t get tired of in a couple years. You will have to look at and try on many different rings before you come to a final decision and, being an intelligent consumer, you should know what your options are.
First, you will have to decide how much you can afford to spend. Then, with your budget in mind, choose the material you want your ring made of.
Wedding Vows
August 29, 2010
The vows you take to become husband and wife are very special. Over the years many people decided to make up their own versions and today there are many different ways to make this special commitment to each other.
Most tend to follow the traditional vows of love, cherish, sickness, health, better or worse but many woman are understandably uncomfortable with the traditional obey part! That stems from a different time when that was expected.
Writing your own vows can be very emotional and are therefore words to cherish. Writing them into your order of service allows everyone to enjoy these special words with you and provides an excellent keepsake of the day.
Some couples are religious and this will be reflected in the words they choose. If you are to be married in a religious ceremony then it would be wise to check with the officiant incase there are words that you may not deviate from.
Other couples favour a more light hearted approach and opt for non-traditional secular vows and some even prefer the humorous approach!! Believe it or not you can get vows from Dr Suess!!
Emotional Infidelity: A KEY Tactic to Save the Marriage
August 26, 2010
Hearing that your cheating spouse is "in love" with someone else is devastating. I hear often, "I can handle her having sex with someone else. I think I can live with that. But, for her to give herself emotionally and "love" someone else?man, that is hard." (Feel free to substitute the word he for she in this article.)
What can you specifically do to increase the odds of saving the marriage?
So often the offended spouse reacts with intense feelings and pulls out all stops to "win her back."
He applies pressure. Begs. Cajoles. Makes promises. Gets in her face. Sends flowers. Arranges for dates. Talks to her family and friends. Calls her on the phone. Asks questions? daily, sometimes hourly. He is on her like a fly on doo-doo.
It doesn’t work.Why? Well, for one reason she has found all the stimulation and excitement she supposedly needs in her new found "love."
At a deeper level this is confusing enough for the cheating husband or cheating wife. Any additional input will be overwhelming and she is liable to close the door on the marriage even further. Plus, she is really looking for some stability, some solid centered core that will hold her firm when the wind of drama entices her and blows around her.
Wedding Colors
August 23, 2010
Is it to be a summer wedding or winter wedding? Do you have a particular favourite color? Does the bridegroom have a pathalogical dislike for a certain color?
These are all important questions when deciding your wedding color scheme. The color you decide on will influence your dress color, the grooms outfit, the decoration at the reception, your flowers, the bridesmaid dresses……..need I go on?
It is one of the most important decisions you will make about this special day.
If you dont already have an idea of colorscheme then if you have a reception venue already booked or in mind then consider any strong colors that may be already in situ.
If your are marrying on a beach then an un-changable color there is blue!! If it is a winter wedding in a tree filled setting then green would be a consideration. These are suggested mearly as starting points and should you choose a beach location with a forest background then there would be no need to involve blue and green!!
Cheating Wives - Play with Your Lives!
August 21, 2010
Many wives cheat on their husbands. This could be due to the fact that the husband does not give much of his time to his wife. The husband is usually the bread winner in a family and spends most of his time at work. This is especially so when a husband is self-employed and works for himself. His time becomes more important to him to work as he needs to make money for the family to survive.
If your husband is a workaholic then your lives are even more at risk from your wife cheating on her husband. Sometimes the husband can become so engrossed in his work that it may seem to the wife that he is totally ignoring her. When she tries to tell him something he is only half listening and this is very frustrating for the wife. The wife ay become bored with her husband as she seeks his attention. The husband may not realise just how little attention ha has been giving his wife. A wife can resent this and hence start to look elsewhere for her needs.
How to Avoid Destructive Dynamics in Your Marriage
August 17, 2010
A dynamic that prevents real connection in a relationship is when a couple engage in controlled/controlling behaviour. This is when one person tries to control the other, and the other allows themselves to be controlled.
Sarah and Mike are an example of this. Mike works long hours in a professional career which he enjoys. Sarah had a satisfying career in retail, which she gave up when children came along.
Mike got more and more involved in his career, whilst Sarah felt more and more disillusioned with being a full time mother.
Mike liked order and routine in his life. He believed they had an agreement. The house and children were Sarah’s responsibility.
Mike paid Sarah a housekeeping amount each week and he maintained the rest of the finances. When Sarah talked about going back to work, he believed she was going back on what they had agreed.
Sarah stopped talking about it.
Sarah resented what she perceived as Mike’s freedom. Sarah resisted any suggestions from Mike about interests she could pursue or hobbies she could try. Mike felt he was trying to help.
He was worried she was unhappy. Sarah didn’t see concern, only control. She felt manipulated and powerless.
Planning Your Outdoor Wedding Reception
August 15, 2010
An outdoor wedding reception can be host to an almost unlimited number of guests and has the aura of nature that can never be duplicated in an indoor ballroom. Some of the following outdoor wedding reception ideas should help to get you started with planning this special day, including avoiding some of the dangers involved with an outdoor setting.
One of the great advantages of outdoor wedding receptions is the cost. If you have your own suitable parcel of land, you can save thousands of dollars over the rental of a reception hall. Even renting someone else’s private land for the event is generally cheaper than a ballroom.
Hosting an outdoor wedding reception at a public park is not recommended because public parks are just that: public. It can be difficult to control who will and will not end up wandering around eating the hors d’oeuvres. There is plenty of private acreage for rent just about anywhere, quite suitable for a large outdoor wedding reception. This allows you more managed access to the event.
A great thing about the outdoors is that you can have games and entertainment that wouldn’t be possible indoors. Outdoor games such as horseshoes and croquet are always a hit and can help to keep the younger guests occupied and out of trouble.
Relationship Advice: A Map for Your Marriage
August 12, 2010
Have you ever been lost?
My favorite line about being lost comes from an old “M*A*S*H” episode where Hawkeye says, “We’re not lost. I’ve been lost before, and this is not what it looks like.”
We all know the drill - you thought you knew where you were going, so you didn’t bring a map, and you found yourself so hopelessly turned around that you had no idea where to go next.
Ever feel that way in your relationship?
To Plan or Not to Plan
Consider with me the last vacation you were able to take. Think back to all the planning that was involved, things such as where to go, what to take with you, notifying people you would be gone and even consulting a map on how to get there.
Quite a bit of preparation, conscious thought and planning goes into a successful vacation.
Now, consider this: How much planning and conscious thought has gone into your marriage?
It’s truly amazing how some folks will spend more time planning a two-week vacation than they do planning how they would like their marriage relationship to be.
How to Have a Sizzler of a Honeymoon! Article No. 9
August 9, 2010
When it came to love-making, Napoleon, that short plump bundle of masculinity, knew that it all started in the head. And as far as he was concerned you couldn’t get a better start than by smelling sweet. He himself used almost one bottle of eau de cologne per day. As for Josephine?
Brides in India have been known to be massaged with scented oils for weeks prior to the wedding day. By the time the D Day arrived, their bodies were literally impregnated with fragrance.
Men and women for centuries have been making themselves desirable by appealing to the nose. Early Romans thought nothing of perfuming themselves two or three times a day so that they would always be nice to be near.
Unlike the current custom, which encourages people to acquire a taste for a particular perfume, making it their signature so to speak, in the past people were much more adventurous, using a different perfume for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes it was to match their mood, other times to match the time of day. Something light at the break of day. Something a little stronger at lunch time. And by night time, it was no holds barred.
